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When you consider having a child, do you ever picture him in his adult life?
Can you judge yourself as a parent in an objective way?
What values would you print in your child?
What would you want him to inherit from you?
You may dream of giving him the world, but if essential lessons are not learned, do you think it will matter so much showing him the cities of the world?
I think whatever your lucky or less lucky star may be, regardless of the social class to which we belong, there are some important lessons to learn the first seven years of life. Lessons that make us humans:
- Goodness: I teach my boys not to scoff or taunt. Not ever. To show empathy and care.
- Patience: I think it is essential for a child to understand that he doen’t deserve everything by default and that desires are not fulfilled immediately.
Teach him to wait, to postpone a pleasure, to pursue their goal with perseverance.
- Do not envy: do not try to constantly encourage excessive comparisons and competitive spirit. Teach him that he is sufficient to himself the way he is and that others’ gifts and benefits will not harm his qualities.
- Decency. It’s difficult to repeat the same story so many times, but it is worth it. You need more consistency to teach a child good manners, respect for people or things and a lovely demeanor in public. The parents’ behavior speak more than a thousand words.
- Self control: it is one of the most valuable lessons and one of the things I want to reinforce in me: controlling your tone of voice, craving for sweets and unhealthy foods, nerves, frustration, negative emotions.
- Do not just pursue their own interest: it does not seem healthy to teach your children to do anything for e purpose. I’m trying to sow seeds of friendship, teamwork, empathy, be unselfish and to see the good in others.
- Optimism: For the child learns to think positively through imitation. If we are constantly tormented by dark thoughts, anxious and bleak, so they will become.
Basically I believe that a child imitates what he sees in the house.
And I think all these lessons are actually a description of love.